Verbal Abuse & How it Can Hurt

we havent been posting very much because we have been going through a hard time with a situation in our lives.. i have done much thinking.. i made some decisions for my life and our system that is going to make things much easier for us.. and i am so thankful that im back in my right mind.. several changes have happened in our lives and in the Forum we run.. and we are pleased with them..

with the help of some "truly special friends" we are able to move forward now.. with the wonderful support of my t, case worker and care provider we have gained the strength back in ourselves that we thought was lost.. we are standing firm and head held high and nothing will knock us back down from here..

you see.. we had this old friend that reminding us alot of the birth mother.. with her ev*l ways of attacks.. her non stop insults.. constantly putting me or my inner ones down.. or saying horrible things about them.. i was somehow sucked under her control over and over again.. but not no more.. in public places she shows a completely different side of herself.. but behind those walls.. or in those private places.. in emails.. in PMs.. she attacks full force.. with hate spitting from her mouth..

at times this old friend would be nice, somewhat supportive and use ways to get me to believe she would always be there for all of us and listen.. what we did not know is it came with a big price on that friendship.. if i was to say something this person didnt like or agree with.. she blew up and totally went off on me.. humiliating me the best she could.. twisting words around that were said.. and even putting words in my mouth that i had never spoken.. she did this to not only me but to my inner ones as well.. this is what you call...... VERBAL ABUSE.. one of the worst kinds..

we will no longer take any type of abuse from anyone.. we have drawn the line and now have our eyes WIDE OPEN.. the Forum we run does not support anyone who is abusive to others in any way shape or form.. and we are going to go to the extreme and make sure it stays that way.. if you are being verbally attacked by somone in our Forum.. i ask everyone to inform me ASAP of the situation because it will be taken care of just like was with the old friend who harmed us.. its time all of us survivors pull together and remember where we use to be and where we are not now and not to let ANYONE put you back in that old place again.. taking a stand against abuse is what all of us need to be doing..

and right now.. we Our System is at the front of that line....................

if anyone is verbally abusing you.. get out of the relationship or friendship now! i promise you it only gets worse and worse until you are sucked into their nasty bite and you will end up severly harmed and hurt.. getting away from an abuser like that is your only choice..


my love to each one of you whom we can trust and whom we know love and care for us..

K n all